No amount of coaching is going to turn a sexist, racist, ableist society into a just and fair one. So, there's no point in trying to flourish, right? Wrong, actually. Flourishing is a marathon - an unfair one - in which some of us are carrying heavier burdens than others. You can't make the competition fair, but you can lighten your load.

So, you've dreamed up your ideal life. What now? You go and get it, that's what now. There's just one problem: there's only one person who knows how to get it, and that person is not talking. Also, that person is you. Here's the strategy you need to get yourself to spill the beans.

Do you know what you want, what you really really want? If not, you really really really really need to listen to this episode.

You need to say NO more often. Here’s a 2000-year-old guide to how to do it.

Hey, sometimes it’s fine to be negative. Put on your Morrissey t-shirt and join The Academic Imperfectionist for a deep dive into why it’s okay not to be okay.

What do you do when you're ready to collapse but you haven't done enough to earn a rest? Answer: you take a rest, and while you're doing it you have a long, hard think about the crazy idea that rest is something that needs to be earned.

It’s good to be grateful, right? Well, maybe … but maybe not.